- Become more self aware: As humans we are lucky we have the ability to get outside of our heads and examine how we see ourselves.
- Change your focus: Now that we can see ourselves from another angle, we can observe where we are spending most of our time and energy – is it on the things we can change and influence or is it on the things in our life we have no control over. ( In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R.Covey he uses the Circle of Influence and Concern model). I used this by quickly jotting down all the things I can and cannot control in my life. For example I want to travel more- I can choose to work more, save more, spend less and start planning my next trip. I want to spend more time with friends – I can write a list of friends, get my calendar out and contact them to get a few dates in the diary. I can’t change the behavior of some people in my life- I choose to not let this concern take away any of my energy and rather focus on the things I can control.
- Taking response-ability. We literally have the ability to choose how we respond to life, to people , to situations. Make a conscious effort to change the way you react to situations. Before you shout, get angry, or upset with someone- take just a moment to become self aware, use your imagination to picture what the situation would look like if you calmly handled it, or if you were to freak out.
- Change your language from reactive to proactive. When I wake up in the mornings I no longer say “ I have to go to work”, I say, ” I am grateful that I have the opportunity to work and I choose to go and make the money I desire for my travels.” Try a different way of thinking – it will show you all the small things you are lucky to have in life.
- Take initiative and be proactive. I am choosing not to wait for life to happen. If I want a better job, I need to start doing research, start looking into any courses available , and start volunteering in that field. I have always been a big promoter of volunteer work as it is a win win situation. Not only are you helping, you are learning on the job and there is a very good chance you will get recognized – leading to a potential job offer.
The world is your oyster! Choose to focus on the things you can influence and take control of, take action, take response-ability and change the way you respond to your life and the people in it for the better.
*I have just started reading The 7 habits of Highly Effective People by Steve R Covey. This information comes from the first chapter and Habit 1, Be Proactive. I will be sharing more of what I am learning in my next few posts.
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