5 ways to take control of life immediately.

  1. Become more self aware: As humans we are lucky we have the ability to get outside of our heads and examine how we see ourselves.
  2. Change your focus: Now that we can see ourselves from another angle, we can observe where we are spending most of our time and energy – is it on the things we can change and influence or is it on the things in our life we have no control over. ( In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen R.Covey he uses the Circle of Influence and Concern model). I used this by quickly jotting down all the things I can and cannot control in my life. For example I want to travel more- I can choose to work more, save more, spend less and start planning my next trip. I want to spend more time with friends – I can write a list of friends, get my calendar out and contact them to get a few dates in the diary. I can’t change the behavior of some people in my life- I choose to not let this concern take away any of my energy and rather focus on the things I can control.
  3. Taking response-ability. We literally have the ability to choose how we respond to life, to people , to situations. Make a conscious effort to change the way you react to situations. Before you shout, get angry, or upset with someone- take just a moment to become self aware, use your imagination to picture what the situation would look like if you calmly handled it, or if you were to freak out.
  4. Change your language from reactive to proactive. When I wake up in the mornings I no longer say “ I have to go to work”, I say, ” I am grateful that I have the opportunity to work and I choose to go and make the money I desire for my travels.” Try a different way of thinking – it will show you all the small things you are lucky to have in life.
  5. Take initiative and be proactive. I am choosing not to wait for life to happen. If I want a better job, I need to start doing research, start looking into any courses available , and start volunteering in that field. I have always been a big promoter of volunteer work as it is a win win situation. Not only are you helping, you are learning on the job and there is a very good chance you will get recognized – leading to a potential job offer.

The world is your oyster! Choose to focus on the things you can influence and take control of, take action, take response-ability and change the way you respond to your life and the people in it for the better.

*I have just started reading The 7 habits of Highly Effective People by Steve R Covey. This information comes from the first chapter and Habit 1, Be Proactive. I will be sharing more of what I am learning in my next few posts.

Let me know your thoughts and feel free to comment below 🙂

Thanks for reading,



5 Comments Add yours

  1. evolvecoachingnz says:

    This is a great read, I wonder if it mentions anywhere within the book, the benefits of either mindfulness or meditation.


    1. I am only on the first chapter so I shall let you know 🙂 I am a huge believer in this though and you will see some of my posts on why I strongly recommend mindfulness and meditation. Have a lovely day and thanks for stopping by.

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  2. Myles Butler says:

    Stephen Covey is awesome. If you really enjoy “The 7 Habits” you should check out his book “First Things First.” It basically goes into detail on how to be proactive and put first things first.

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    1. Awesome I will definitely check that book out when I have finished this one 🙂 Thanks for the recommendation!

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